I could be wrong here, and Mobilman44 should speak up and say so if I am.
But I took his question to simply mean MU’d diesels, not modern DP, and him wanting to understand how one engineer controls 2 or more locomotives without them fighting each other like our models sometimes do.
This question, if I am right, suggests that the OP does not fully understand how a diesel electric locomotive works, let alone how how three or four of them respond to one set of commands.
Maybe he needs to understand how the traction motors are connected to the wheels and the fact that a real locomotive will roll when pushed, while our models will not.
And how the traction motors are controlled electrically and how the diesel engine and the traction motors respond to the commands from the engineer.
Maybe he needs to first understand how the four or six traction motors are separately geared to their individual axles and how they work together to move the locomotive.
Then it will make more sense to him how one set of commands can control multiple locomotives with minimal “conflict” as all these separately powered axles apply power to move the train, differently from our models with one motor applying power thru worm gears that will not free wheel.
Again, I could be wrong, but I think the OP is asking a more simple question than most of you have been trying to answer.
And now the irony in this, I am DC modeler, and nearly every train on my layout is powered by more than one powered locomotive. And while many are relatively “matched sets”, I also run double or trippled headed steam of mixed brands and wheel arrangements.
Example, a Spectrum 2-6-6-2 and a Proto 2-8-8-2 on the head end of a coal drag of 40-45 hoppers. They run fine together, no modifications, nothing done to “speed match” them.
Generally, if you really need two or more locos, and the starting voltage and gearing is close, they will run fine together.