Sorry I havent been here in a while. Things have not went well for me in the last few days.
The day after my last post, a cousin of mine was killed in a single car crash. I found out about this at the accident scene. Responding to a call about a family member is never fun. We had the visitation last Friday. Next day at the funeral, I got another call about a crash. Turns out it was my cousins sister, coming to the funeral. I am currently at the hospital in Chaimpaign. She will be released tommorow, at the earlist.
{Good news today, my cousin was released from the hospital! Thank you everyone for your support!}
Man, I am so sorry to hear that. That is somthing I hope to never have to deal with, being called to the scene of a family member or close friend. I am very sorry to hear about your situation and I offer all my condolences to you.
CD - Been there too many times - not for relatives, fortunately, but with friends and acquaintances. Nearly 30 years in this business in a small town, donchaknow.
Your situation is not the first I’ve encountered like that, nor will it be the last, I’m sure.
My condolences to you, and to all involved. Don’t be afraid to get the support you may well need. Stresses like this can manifest themselves later in undesirable ways.
Second all of the above thoughts. My worst memory is seeing two young members of our department killed in a restaurant fire that was set deliberately. One of the guys had asked to swap shifts with me for that night because he had just graduated from college and was to start a new job the very next morning and didn’t want to oversleep on his first day.
I really felt guilty about those circumstances for a long, long time. It was extremely difficult to face his parents at the wake, but they were very understanding and did everything they could to put my mind as ease.
If counseling isn’t made available to you, then go seek help on your own, Delmar. It will definitely be good for your head at a time like this. Trust me – it took a couple months afterwards to get a handle on my life, even with counseling. At first, I thought I didn’t need it – I thought I was John Wayne, a tough guy – but in hindsight, I was so upset I didn’t realize what a mess my head really was in.
My utmost heartfelt condolences to you and your family. While I was in that profession, I had
runs like that regarding coworkers, but never a family member. All I can really say is to take all
the advice above, very seriously. If yo
I hope I never have to go through what you just did. I hope your cousin in the hospital is recovering well, and my condolences on the loss of your other cousin.
CD my condolences to you and your family. I have never had to respond to a call involving a family member, or close friend, Thank God, but I have seen my share… Good to hear your other cousin has been released from the hospital. I hope she is doing okay. Hang in there.