Seriously. Back in march I gave my mother $43 for a subscription to MRR. She didn’t feel like getting out her debit card to enter all of the info, so we just picked the ‘pay later’ option. I don’t have a problem with it, because she can usually keep track of $20 or so when I have her hold on to my allowance. But, the money gets put in the bank, forgotten about, and SPENT. Now, that money is tight, she doesn’t know when I will get my money back. So now I’m out $43 and a MRR subscription! Now she isn’t going to handle my money. My parents are going to get me a debit card and bank account when I get a job so I can deposit MY money and use it when I NEED IT!!! [soapbox]
My parents are organized when it comes to the money, and if i give them money to buy things they will do it as soon as i give them the cash.
Tjsingle
Could you provide me with her email address so I may forward her your tantrum that you posted here? What prevented you from going to the Post Office and buying a money order to send in with your subscription order? Is everything that goes sour in your world someone else’s fault?? Did you consider that with the economy out of whack these days due to oil and food prices skyrocketing that maybe, just maybe the money went to put some food on the table for your family? If you came here thinking you’d find support from the older members of the forum, I think you’re going to be greatly disappointed. Shame on you for using a public forum to disrespect your mother.
Don Z.
I have a sister that is the same way, she is really tight with her money but plows everyone else’s money. I am waiting to come home to my room in ruins and down money for parts for my truck. she blew $80 bucks on a purse that she is going to use MAYBE once
Don, I would have gladly gone to the post office if I were allowed to. But the nearest one is quite a ways from here. And my mother would never let me go that far from home in this city, way too many freaks. And no I do not blame everything that goes wrong with my life on someone else; there are plenty of things that go wrong in my life that are my fault. Also, if my mother NEEDED to use the money, she would have asked me and I would have
(This is difficult to write, but the OPs attitude was troubling.)
I wish my mother were still alive–I’d like to show her much more love and respect than I ever did.
(Although I showed her lots of both). Did I ever get mad at her? Sure. Did I ever broadcast it all over the world? Absolutely not. And looking back, she was right more often than I was.
I lost her to cancer a couple of years ago. I miss her terribly.
I remember in particular a trip where she took my brother and sister and me to ride the Cass Railroad in WV when I was in my teens. That was many decades ago. I’m now retired–from a career in teaching high school students.
“Honor your father and your mother.” Broaden your perspective; it’ll cause you to grow and mature.
SUE HER! Then you can look for a new place to live with your $43 in hand.[:D] (just make sure it has a basement for your layout[;)])
Geez guys, give the kid a break! He was only venting with his brethren model railroaders. I was often annoyed with my ex when she spent money that had been earmarked for the hobby.
Next time, talk to your mail carrier, if you make arrangements with them they can get the money order for you. If you’re not home when the mail is delivered, leave a note for them explaining what you need. They are usually quite helpfull.
BTW you probably should have posted your topic in the Teen Thread !
I’ll try that, but I’m not sure of
Yeah, thats all part of being a family. I help my parents out from time to time if they need it and they help out their parents. And I’m 26. Every once in a while my mom remembers she never got me a birthday present three months ago when their money was not as freely available as it had been before. I’m not in any hurry for her to spend money they don’t really have.
Yes, the OP’s message was harsh. And it was the improper place to vent about that. For those who might defend that, take a look at this young person’s AOL instant messenger ID. That pretty much says everything anyone would need to know. As we speak, my mother (not my favorite person when I was a teenager) lays in a hospital bed at 86 years old with a torn rotator cuff, arm broken in four places and a collapsed lung while the doctors fuss about possible blood clots, possible surgery and why she hasn’t eaten in four days. But I still have her, and I am grateful for that, no matter what her failings might have been or what I may have percieved them to be back then. To the OP: I hope your mother lasts on this planet long enough for you to see that things like this don’t mean a hill of beans in the grand scheme of things.
Remember; YOU gave her the money, so you bear some culpability in this. Don’t have a job? Get one. It tends to breed maturity as well as independence. Get a bank account. You’ll find keeping things balanced in that account isn’t as easy as you might think, and the bank is one heck of a lot less forgiving of your shortcomings than mom is.
I am assuming you are pretty young or your mother has a significant concern for your well being if you can’t walk or ride a bike to the local post office or stop n go to get a money order.
There were ways around this, including asking to go along on a grocery shopping trip, as most stores sell money orders too. Shopping malls have pre paid Visas you could get, or a simple trip with your mom to go to the post office or Quik Stop would have yielded a money order too.
There were better (and more independent) ways around it. And I can understand your frustration, but let it cool down before you approach her and definitely post train stuff here as your original post was better directed someplace e
He doesn’t live in a great town, and his parents are overprotective, as they should be. His mom never paid Kalmbach and bought cigarettes, so he has a right to feel annoyed. Whether its an appropriate place to vent anger I don’t know. Everyone gets annoyed once in awhile. Cut him some slack, don’t hog it all…
there is something underlying all of this that a number of the non-teenage posters seem to have missed.
If you can’t trust your own parent(s), who CAN you trust?
Yes, there is some culpability on the OP’s part. When his mother checked the, “Pay later,” block he should have demanded his money back RIGHT THEN. Money mistakes are an instant trust-buster, whether kin, friend, business or total stranger. I have encountered businesses which mis-posted my payments to other people’s accounts and then sent ME nastygrams. (Needless to say, I never did business with those people again.)
Once, when I was a teenager, my mother and I had a total breakdown in communication which completely destroyed my trust in her. Whenever I tried to bring the matter up she would brush me off. She went to her grave (half a century after the incident) with the matter unresolved, and thinking about it still makes me seethe. The adults who jumped on the, “Mama’s always right,” bandwagon might want to think about that.
Chuck (modeling Central Japan in September, 1964)
Problem with that scenario, is that your parents will have to co-sign for you to open an account, which means if (when ) you overdraw, the bank then goes to their account for the money.
If I’m correct in assuming that that $43 was also part of an allowance…best to get a job. There is always work, and then it truly is your money.
As my dad used to say (many years ago ), when I asked for an allowance…“You get an allowance every time you sit down to the dinner table.”
And time has proven he had the right idea.
Don Z,
Shame on you, sir, for putting words in the OP’s mouth. Where did he “disrespect” his mother? I certainly don’t see it. The kid is mad, no question. But it’s not like he called his mother names or anything like that, which is what you implied. For all you know, his mom spent his money on Cosmo, perfume, or Grand Theft Auto IV. Lay off, at least until we know more.
Jake1210,
Going only by your post, I’d say you have a legit beef. But remember, it’s only money (and not that much money, either). IOW, it could be worse, and now you have learned a lesson. I’m sure the New Bedford Public Library has MR, and if they don’t, they might be able to get it from another Library (I don’t know if they exchange magazines, but they might).
To everybody else,
Please don’t bring your own mother’s into the thread. Everybody has one, and none of them are going to be Jake1210’s mother (unless he’s got a sibling on here). Not every mother is June Cleaver…
Paul A. Cutler III
Weather Or No Go New Haven
Paul,
If you don’t see coming onto an internet forum and griping about your mother’s actions as disrespect, then I guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree. I hope you wouldn’t find that course of action acceptable behavior from your offspring. If my child had done that, we’d have taken a trip to the woodshed posthaste! My mother was no saint, but I respected her enough to not complain about her to my friends or strangers.
Don Z.
Remember, there are two sides to every story. Maybe Mom should post her take on the situation.
The mother of friend of my son’s called today, asking if we’ve seen her kid. She told us her side of the deal, and asked us to call if we saw him. A few hours later, he showed up at our house, with a completely different view of the situation.
And I agree with the general concensus, this is not the place to air this dirty laundry.
Rotor
Google “magazine subscription model railroader.” You will find numerous offers from magazine brokers which will save you money. Right now, there’s one for a year for under $20. (It’s where my subscription comes from. It’s not a fraud.)
Then, go to your Mom and tell her you’re glad she didn’t buy the full-price subscription, because now you can get it and save some money at the same time. It should be a good way to re-open the conversation on a positive note. Good luck.
Best post of this whole thread. Game over.
I know the kid personally, I’d be mad too if my mother bought cigarettes with my money, without asking me, and not paying me back!