James, I don’t know what your situation is but with some faith in the Lord for some guidance you will overcome it. Also try to find some good help. Someone that can get you on the right track. I was there once and it wsn’t long and my life turned around. You will be in my thoguths and prayers. -Michael
I am sorry to read that you have had a bad time, even worse than when you posted about your troubles back a few weeks ago, James. I don’t know if you have been victimized in some way (or feel that you have), or if you have succumbed to the pressure, and “crashed and burned.”
I have had times when I just couldn’t seem to get my wheels back off the shoulder and onto the pavement…if you know what I mean. After a while, it honestly seems easier to just give up!
But, you can’t You catch your breath, and you take up the slack once more. Life is always about taking up slack, and sometimes the load can be overhwelming.
I hope you are getting the help you need, help that will restore your faith…if not in the Big Guy, then at least in your fellows. The Big Guy is patient, as long as he gets you in the end…in a manner of speaking…[:o)]
Surely you can tell by all this traffic that you are respected and liked…would that not make a healthy return to this place worth it?
-Crandell
James, I think it is obvious from the number of posts that you are well liked here! Please let me add that I have enjoyed your posts here and figured the person writing them must be inteligent, likeable and interesting. Sadly, bad things to happen to good people. No matter how dark the day, better times will always come.
Hang in there! Ten years from now when you are running your newly completed layout with its satelite controlled Proto Athearn electro-magnetic H-302a, you’ll look back on these posts and smile.
Folks, thanks for all the response. I hope that this gives James a little hope. At least he will know that there are alot of people praying and rooting for him. I will forward this to his Father on Monday, so if you want to add anything before then, go ahead over the remainder of the weekend.
james, I, like many others, know you only through your postings. But to me, you seem very knowledgable about trains and have contributed greatly to the forums. Being down and out is never fun, but just hang in there man. You’ll eventually get through it.
best wishes,
Dave
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I don’t know the history here. What is the issue or issues going on?
Curt, read my opening post for the details. James has been a long time participant of this forum. During the past couple of years he has told us about getting his degree and the frustrations of looking for and nearly getting several jobs. It seemed that things were just not falling his way. He seemed to be getting more and more depressed and announced that he was going to sell all his trains to pay his rent. I had corresponded with him off list at that time and tried to offer some encouragement. The message I got from his Father suggests that James is really at the depths right now. It really is not appropriate for me to post the details of this here, but I felt that in some small way, messages from his train buddies might provide some hope. He is not able to access the list, so I am forwarding the messages to his Dad to take to him.
Good luck and hope all improves man. Do what you have to do.
Hang in there James. Everyone goes thru tough times at some point in life. When you get thru them you usually wind up stronger than you were before. Here’s hoping we see you on the forum again real soon!
-Bill
James, Hang in there dude… We all go through times when everything we touch turns to shizit. For some it lasts longer than others but how long is usually up to us. It can only get better from here. May take some doing on your part but it’ll get better…
James,
I have been following your plight and I was pretty bummed to see that thingshave not gotten better for you. You got to suck it up man and get through the day.
I know they may seem like a blunt thng to say, but I mean that in the warmest, most respectful way. If there is tommorow, there is hope. Hang in there. Got to stay the course man. It has been a family saying for my family for genrations. It has gotten me through some pretty tough times. Bad break ups, my small business nightmares, even deaths in the family. Stay the course long enough, and you WILL get through the storm.
I wish you the best, thoughts and prayers are with you. Hold steady…
Warmest Regards
John Kanicsar
James, please come back to us, we need you here.
I’ve missed your posts, guy.
Life changes continuously and you’ll be in your “tight spot” for a short time. Keep that in mind and plan now on moving forward. As I mentioned in the other thread, there are many opportunities for young people today and some may require you to relocate. I know what being depressed is like. It wears away your health.
Cheri***he simple things like the sunshine, being of sound mind, family and being able to walk. When you walk out of your dark tunnel, opportunities are up ahead. Don’t brush past them.
I’m very sure we will see you posting again and I hope it will be with a new attitude. To reflect that, try a new, cool forum name. Something like: “GN Hustle Muscle”!
Peace, Amigo.
James,
We miss you out here. The forum is a little worse off without your presence.
Life is a tough old bird. When things aren’t falling into place, she seems to circle over you waiting to pounce. Many of us have had points in our life we would just as soon forget about, but those eventually lend a perspective to the better times.
As Antonio so wisely pointed out, enjoy the simple things. It’s easy to get bound up in the world and lose sight of those. Keep your head up, and believe in yourself. Don’t let anbody or anything take that away. Getting started is the toughest part, I think.
In the mean time, everybody out here is thinking of you and wishing you the best. We all look forward to the day that you gotten on your feet, dusted yourself off and have rejoined us.
Best of luck.
Stay with it, James.
One of my sons went through a very dark, difficult period but thanks to his sister, we were able to pull him back from the brink. He and his new wife are living a very happy, very suucessful life.
My heart also goes out to your father and mother. It is a terrifying time but have faith and love.
Simon, thank you for bringing this to our attention.
Tom
James,
Please don’t take any of this the wrong way, it’s intended as encouragement, and possibly helpful advice. I know what it’s like having a degree and not being able to find a job. It does stink. My brother is in the same boat. I have a degree in microcomputers, and ended up being a truck driver. My brother is a certified teacher, but ended up working as a sales clerk at Best Buy. Some professions are harder to get into than others. The sad part (for me) is that truck drivers make more money than computer geeks around where I live. Besides that, I really can’t stand being cooped up in an office all day. It may come down to having to take a job in another profession if necessary to pay the rent. Yeah, I know it may stink, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.
At any rate, I’m hoping the best for you. Besides that, the way I see things, if things don’t work out one way, then it’s possible that life (or God) has a different direction in store for you. God has his own way of lighting the path ahead, just sometimes we as humans are too blind to look.
Brad
BTW, what’s your degree in?
James,
All I want to say, I hope that you can take that deep conviction and dedication that you have for the hobby and apply it towards your attitude in daily life. I don’t know what your troubles are, but keep your head up and remember all those pulling for you.
Bob K.
James, keep it together mate, I’m looking at similar job-finding problems but nothing like as tough as yours by the sounds of it. The secret seems to be to keep the applications going out regardless of the brush-offs and rejections, eventually you’ll find something. There are always openings for people willing to put in a solid day’s work, it’s just a matter of finding them. Brad has it right about careers - you may end up with something unrelated to your degree but so long as you’re happy and the money is good it doesn’t matter at all.
Hey there pardner. Keep on holdin’ on and don’t let go. Good luck to you and I hope that everything turns out alright for ya.