I'VE HAD ENOUGH !... Part II

Model Railroader General Discussion (Model Railroader)
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As a lot of you know, I had words with a model railroading buddy of mine the other day because for two years now I’ve been having to do 100% of the work on his layouts, build his building and structure kits, repair his locos and rolling stock, etc. When I told him that I wasn’t doing it anymore and handed him the screwdriver, he exploded and tried making me feel bad by telling me that without my help his trains and layout were doomed… The guy is “very” dysfunctional to say the least, and has an extremely vulgar mouth that I’m sick of.
Earlier tonight he called me and apologized for the way he acted and things he said the other night. He said that he’s been having problems at work that have really been eating on him and that he hasn’t been in the best frame of mind lately. I accepted his apology, and told him that I’d be glad to help him once in a while when he really needs it, but that he’s going to have to start paying attention and learn how to do things for himself - and stop using the vulgar language and so forth around me and his mom like he has been. He promised me he would. He went on to say that he doesn’t have a lot of friends and would really hate to see me not come around anymore if for no other reason but just to hang out and watch TV.
I appreciated that he was man enough to call and admit that he was wrong, and that he’s willing to try and do better.
I was really angry when I posted the original I"VE HAD ENOUGH!.. topic the other night, and want to thank you all for your replies and comments. It really helped.

Take care, and Happy New Year to all.

Tracklayer

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I think that we have all benn there at some point in our lives and Its pretty obvious that you guys ARE friends that just needed to work things out, and I’m glad to hear that you are. Small simple things that usually have easy fixes often end friend ships because of stubborness, its a real mans obligation to not let those things happen. [;)]

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It is really great that you set limits with your friend. That is doing him a great favor. God put you in his path. One of the saints said something to the effect that you should preach the gospel at all times and when absolutely necessary use words.

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great ! remember to remind him of that conversation when he starts to backslide into his old habits

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that’s good you both blew off some steam i think that’s what helps anger the most- i do have a question- if he has a job and works why can’t he pick up a screwdriver and fix a loco or freight car?

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…and backslide he will. Hopefully, you can apply corrections as they appear without problems…

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I’m way ahead of you on that one. He knows he’d better “walk the line” this time…

Tracklayer

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Hay, that’s great! Sure, he’ll backslide. Don’t we all? I’ve never met anyone who doesn’t. The thing is, when he does, just remind him of his promise, and keep on truckin. If he truely wants your friendship, he’ll be mindful of your wishes.