Hi!
In the mid '50s (I was 11 or so), I was allowed to build a Lionel layout in the basement under our grocery store. I did it all myself, and the 16x6 layout turned out pretty good. Most all the trains and materials were funded by a paper route and whatever else I could do to earn a dime. While my parents never actively participated, they never discouraged me either.
When the layout was up and running, I would sometimes find the trains “not where I left them” when I came down to run them. Obviously Dad would secretly run the trains when I wasn’t around, but he never fessed up to it. Having grown up dirt poor in southern Illinois, toys like the trains were way beyond a kid’s fantasy when he was young. Dad passed away suddenly in 1989, and I miss him. I especially wish he could see my room filling HO layout, and run some trains with me - particularly the sound equipped IC streamliner.
My Mom worked in downtown Chicago, and didn’t know one train from another. But, she always made sure that my “big” gift for Christmas and birthdays was train related. And yes, she would ask me what I wanted so as to not “waste money”. One time she supprised me with an All-Nation CB&Q bright red boxcar kit for no “special occasion”. It was a real stretch for me to do justice for it, but the end result was operable and looked good. Mom passed away last month at 94, suffering from the ravages of Alzheimers.
I’m now 67, and have been a train nut since I can remember - thanks in no small part to my parents allowing me to do my own thing. May I just say “Thank You, Mom & Dad”, for helping me get into a lifelong hobby and passion !!!