As has already been mentioned, you can drill-out holes which are too small or fill and re-drill ones that are too large. Filing down either body- or truck bolsters can lower a too-high car, while spacer washers from Kadee (or homemade ones) will raise a car that’s too low.
It’s unlikely that you will find sprung trucks with Talgo-style (attached) couplers, and I would strongly suggest that you convert those Tyco/Mantua cars to body-mounted couplers. They’ll not only look better, but will perform better, too.
Kadee offers sprung metal trucks in several styles, but most of them (at least the older ones which I have) have a very small hole for the mounting screw - not difficult to enlarge it, though. Kadee has recently gone to non-sprung trucks, although I don’t know if they’re phasing out the sprung ones or merely offering more choices. While I always liked sprung trucks (besides Kadee, Athearn, Model Die Casting, Central Valley, Train Miniature, Lindberg, and many others offered sprung trucks at one time), they don’t look all that realistic, especially compared to some of the more recent non-sprung releases from companies such as Tahoe Model Works, Tangent, Atlas, Bowser, and Kadee. After all, a real truck has a number of springs in each side of it, and there’s very little of a see-through nature to them.
In light of that, I recently gathered up a bunch of my cars equipped with Kadee trucks and performed an easy modification to them which, in my opinion, improves their realism.
For the first ones, I simply cut up some Kadee #5 coupler boxes and used ca to cement appropriately-sized pieces of black plastic behind the springs. This eliminates the unprototypical see-through look, although on most of mine it also eliminated any benefit of having real springs, as the sideframes are now rigidly attached to the truck bolsters. It doesn’t seem to affect the performance, but with a little care, the pi