Mike, somewhere in all this most of us are trying to build a “model” of a railroad. Yes, that is full of compromises.
But looking to the prototype for operational standards is a good place to start.
The NMRA gauge is 2-3/16" wide BECAUSE, it is not a double track clearance gauge, there are pages of information in the NMRA Standard and Recommended Practices on double track spacing.
The NMRA gauge is a bridge and structure clearance gauge, and any simple reasearch will reveal that the prototype uses more generious clearances for trackside structures and bridges than it does for double track minimum spacing.
The pioneers in this hobby many decades ago adopted 2" track centers as a good compromise because it looked acceptably close, provided some extra clearance, and would work at least with larger curves as a single standard.
This allowed manufacturers to make lots of “compatible” products, double track bridges, turnouts, crossovers, tunnel portals, signal bridges and more.
You are obviously welcome to build your layout however you see fit. I personally would want no part of your seat of the pants, hook the flex track together before fastening it, way of doing things.
And I have been doing this successfully for a long time…
I will stay with my universal 2" track centers, I will keep engineering the path of my trackwork before I install it, and I will likely leave you to it for a while, I have more important things to busy myself with.
And my 100 plus Atlas turnouts work just fine - maybe because they are properly fastened down…
Sheldon