da, keep your current girlfriend until she says you can’t spend your dough on trains. Then, say “Hasta La Vista”
Jimmy
Frank
I am blessed with a wonderful wife who encourages my participation in the hobby, and who admires the detailed work that I do. In the last year money has been tight thanks to the collapse of the business that I was in, but she is still making really good money. She has no problem with me spending a few of her hard earned dollars on trains, as long as it is within reason.
We are at the 35 year mark, which I hope is less than half of the way along our relationship path.
Dave
We will be married 27 years this year and my wife never gave me a frown nor a bad word about my hobby. In fact, she is very supportive, although she does not share the interest. She has enough patience, though, to spend hours riding or chasing trains with me during our vacation.
I am a blessed man!
Frank, Great topic and I enjoyed reading the posts, I had (notice the past tense) been dating a woman for a number of years and when she finally come down to the basements after a very l o n g time, she was pretty critical of the layout. Then when she found out how much I was spending, her comment was ‘are you out of your mind?’ The breakup was swift and painless.
WOW; this sounds familiar! My wife and I began dating while we were in high school, got married 5 years later and have been married for 26 years. She enjoys exploring abandoned railroads and going to the museums with me. Being a lone-wolf modeler, it is good to have her around!
Of course, she has her hobbies that I support just as much.
My wife is very supportive of me having a hobby outside of those enjoyed by my other male friends (golfing, Vegas, etc), but does have one rule; I have to share my trains with our boys. [:P]
Don’t feel bad, mine too… [sigh]
John
Can’t say. Never been married and I haven’t had a girlfriend since the mid 80’s. My last girlfriend did think the trains were pretty cool though. I was modeling in N Scale then.
Can’t say. Never been married and I haven’t had a girlfriend since the mid 80’s. My last girlfriend did think the trains were pretty cool though. I was modeling in N Scale then.
Good advice; I do just that…and in the case of the wife, it’s a lot easier to ignore her now that she’s my EX-wife!
Audrey has me well sorted when it comes to my trains and synth nerdiness.
Since she has her own things to get her going she feels that it is rude for other women to go around criticizing their husbands hobbies…[:-^]
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We have been married 33 years, second marriage for both of us. My wife totally supports the hobby, since she knows how much it de-stresses me. I am an ordained pastor, but also had a full career in the computer field having gotten in on the ground floor.
As an example, I spent 28 years with the Federal Reserve Bank in KC in the computer systems development and testing department. I also spent a few years going out to the branch banks in Denver, Oklahoma City and Omaha, with a van load of micro computers to do training classes. She would go with me. Usually she would take something along to do, like making over 500 trees round trip to Denver and back. It was a conversation piece when I arrived at Denver bank with a large box containing the trees she made on the trip to Denver. When we got back to Kansas City, I unloaded the trees and did the Johnnie Appleseed thing on the layout with the trees.
She is a treasure.
Bob
Hello,
thank you everybody for your replies. It has been very interesting reading what you all had to write. It totally underlines how important it is to have mutual understanding and respect for one another. Also, this can serve as a suggestion for both genders that it is important to respect the interests of your partner, for the way we feel about our hobby the other person in our lives might have interest in something else just as strong.
Great reading and thank you again.
Frank