I agree with Tom regarding Al, 100%. What concerns me is that Al and others who exhibit these characteristics are troubled in some way in their lives. And yes, I understand that this is a MRR forum, not a psychology forum to help those in need. However, we “are” our brother’s keeper to the extent that we can try to teach them the errors of their ways, and both we as members of this forum, and the Kalmbach admin staff, have both tried countless times to give Al the message. That has failed. So, the one thing remaining is to offer a prayer for Al today that God will help him with whatever is troubling him.
Thank you in advance guys,
I agree. I bear Al no ill will. It’s just business when we mods have to deal with him, and he seems to want it that way because he repeats. If he could alter his on-line tactics and play in the sandbox with all the rest of the boys and girls, we wouldn’t need to keep chasing him away.
But, Tom is correct. This has nothing to do with any of the typical biases…all any of us has to go on here is what words appear in type face in front of us. Some of us do well, some not so well, but if the message blazes out, we can all get along if it isn’t a personal attack. Yes, there is a psychological defect (I use that term advisedly because I know Al is reading this), and if he is to be a truly happy person, he needs to get rid of his anger. Venting it here is not a rational approach to solving his problem. But no one can be forced to seek help. That’s one of the tenets of ethics in medical treatment. Al has to want it, and that means first accepting that the way folks respond to him is not because we have decided we don’t like him. We don’t like his injurious behaviour…which ultimately only causes him to self-injure by inviting banishment in his various aliases. Sort of like hate the sin, but love the sinner. Here, you always get one with the other in Al. If he could leave the sin somewhere else, he would be welcome…in time.
Yes, a prayer may be indicated because nothing we do seems to help him to reorient himself. And help he needs.
-Crandell